In China, many Chinese women cannot find their life partners in their own countries so they visit international dating sites to look for their other halves. If you’re single and want to make your dream Chinese girl fall in love with you, how should you go about doing it? The first step to success is writing a good EMF mail. Here are some tips:
1. Be polite, honest and sincere
Courtesy is needed when writing an EMF mail. If you can give a good first impression to the lady by highlighting your strengths and respect for her, it’s likely that you will succeed in the future.
2. Address her correctly
Unlike the usual forename-surname order in Western cultures, a Chinese name is written with the family name first and the given name last. It’s better for you to refer to her by her given name, rather than her full name as it sounds more intimate. You can also inquire about the connotations of her name, or how her name is written in Chinese.
3. Compliment her and let her know why you’re interested in her
Don’t forget to tell her how attractive she is to you. Simply tell her why you like her. Naturally, when she’s praised, special feelings will develop fairly quickly between both of you. Then when such feelings develop, you can go on to talk about the information written in her profile and find out the similarities between the both of you. Talk about things she likes or likes doing, and express your interest to have a better understanding of her.
4. Tell her about yourself
Talk more about things related to yourself, including what you do, your experiences, interests, hobbies, family etc. In this way, the lady will understand you better and feel safe and assured when communicating with you.
5. Tell her what you’re looking for in a relationship
Tell her what you’re looking for in your ideal mate, and what future plans you have in your life. If the lady has a different idea, she can discuss it with you and reach an agreement for a better solution.
6. Take your time and don’t be pushy or overaggressive
You have to build intrigue and encourage your potential partner to come to you. Be available, but don’t be pushy or off-puttingly needy. It’s also important to read her cues. If she doesn’t want to discuss a certain part of her life or certain topics, don’t force her or there may be a negative effect.
7. Leave open questions for interactive communication
Leave open questions to create opportunities for further interactive communication. Avoid asking questions that merely solicit a yes/no answer.
8. Try to understand and listen
For those women who have been hurt in their previous relationships, they are more anxiously looking for respect and comfort from gentlemen rather than denial or judgment. If you have a woman follow your requirements in a way that is not appropriate to her, she’ll have negative feelings towards you. So, for smooth communication, you’re advised to discuss your concerns with her, try to understand her feelings and consider her situation.
9. Include good photos
You can attach a maximum of three photos in each EMF mail. If you wish to give a strong on a lady, it’s best that you upload your photos. Photos you could send include your personal photo, a photo of your family, workplace, pet, etc.
10. Keep your English as easy to understand as possible
Many Chinese women are still learning English and will try to understand your mail. So you’re strongly recommended to explain and discuss matters in the simplest form of English. Avoid the use of idioms or slang.